Treasure yourself.

   Today is the day to get real and treasure yourself. You are a valuable person. You have lots to share – love, kindness, compassion. You can share these by living from them. Not by putting effort into trying hard to be or do good, but by feeling these qualities and allowing them be apparent in your day-to-day living. No matter how often your mind comes up with doubts;  love, kindness and compassion are in you, and with you. They are ready to guide your life, to help you be the best that you can. Relax and let your inner self guide you.

Resilience

To be strong and adaptable is a useful quality in these times. Being patient and kind are also valuable qualities. These all go out the window when we are stressed and tired - unless they are so embedded and part of our belief system that they work automatically. How do we build resilience? How can we learn to view life's experiences as chances to further develop and not let our fear get in the way of continuing to live fully in the moment?
Firstly, what has happened in the past for you? How have you been supported through previous crises? How do you perceive previous crises? What emotions are you hiding inside yourself from that time? You can improve your resilience by facing these emotions, and releasing them. You can express them by talking, writing, artwork, singing, being physically active. And you still need to feel them, to release them.
Secondly, you can also look after yourself right now by accepting support from others. You can be kind to yourself by accepting how you feel and being understanding of yourself. Give yourself a gift - a flower, a walk, a sit in the sun, a massage, a time for you. Maybe dance or sing. Treasure yourself and open deep inside yourself to find truth.

Are feelings a waste of time?

Do you think that feelings are a waste of time? Trouble is, they run our life. We can't get away from them. They are there even when we think we have them under control. Fear stops us from speaking up and saying what we really think. Fear stops us from trying a new activity. Fear creates that tight knot in our stomach and we think "I can't". Fear stops us from being confident. And we all want to feel confident and happy. Fear and other negative emotions get in the way. They block our real selves and reduce our potential for growth and development - no matter what age we are. Anger comes out at unexpected times, causing a ripple effect on other people.
Maybe we need to think differently about feelings. Try allowing yourself to feel, really feel. Try relaxing into the feeling. You might be surprised at the result.

How has the earthquake changed you?

Did it shake up your life  - emotions, bahaviours, relationships, habits, physical health? For some people there is no area of their lives that has not been affected by the earthquake. Do you get stressed more easily? Do you get frights more easily? Do you sleep as well as you did before?  It is difficult for some of us to be relaxed about the aftershocks.
How come we get so scared and fearful? Why do you have a different reaction to other people?
Consider the possibility that your reaction may have something to do with earlier experiences in your life. Your emotional response to earlier crises will have reappeared causing you to be fearful, or fragile, or stressed, or resilient. What is your emotional response? What is the cause of this response? Find out by undergoing a Journey process to uncover the memory, and allow yourself to release the emotions associated with it. Live life more freely.

Have you laughed today?

Have you laughed today??? Was it a snigger or a joyful laugh that rose up from deep within you? I could have asked how many times you have laughed today, but post-earthquake maybe it's more a question of have you laughed at all?
Joyful laughing is fantastic for your health. It relaxes you, relieves stress, eases pain, lets go of tension, allows you to enjoy the moment. Laughter shared helps relationships develop with a feeling of connection. It needs to happen several times a day.And not as a cover up for expressing whatever is making you nervous. When life is serious, the mind is very busy creating doubts and worries about the future. It is also busy dissecting the past, until the whole body becomes a tense ball of muscle. This can lead to all sorts of unease and illnesses. When your body is tense it cannot function at its best. When the tenseness continues for some time then problems are likely. Many people are stressed and tense since the earthquake. The sudden aftershocks send adrenaline shooting round the body, creating tightness in arteries and muscles. Living with the unpredictable movements of the earth can lead to a real sense of lack of control of life. The earth is such a basic and all-embracing part of life, often taken for granted. Now, we feel like nothing can be trusted - we have to be vigilant anbout everything in life, everyday. How exhausting!
So think about having a laugh. Get together with friends or neighbours, or just yourself and have a go.
Suggestions for encouraging yourself to laugh include:

• Watch a young child exploring the environment and being playful.
• Listen for the humour in people's comments.
• Play with the cat or the dog.
• Be lighthearted about your own mistakes. Laugh at your own, and not other's mistakes.
• Watch the leaves dancing in the wind.
• Listen to the ambiguities of the English language.
• Watch a funny movie.
• Pull faces at a friend and have a game of trying not to laugh.
• Observe the children who laugh.
• Start a false laugh. Making yourself physically laugh can lead to real laughter.

If you are unable to find a way to laugh and be lighthearted for at least part of the day, consider enlisting help to uncover the cause. There will be some emotional issues that need clearing.

The Unexpected.

The unexpected can be a gift. This may seem unbelievable at the time, as the unexpected is often uncomfortable, to say the least. Life can suddenly cause a major change for us and we feel out of control. Just know that there is a gift in it somewhere. Actively seek the gift. It may be the comfort of other people, or a new understanding of another person, or a chance to think about what is really important, or an opportunity to step off your comfortable path and be creative, or a chance to discover an unknown part of yourself. Accepting being out of control of your life can open doors to new ways of thinking and to new ways of being. It can bring up buried feelings which need to be exposed and released. It can lead to greater understanding of other people and of situations. It can mean that life is lived to a new depth. Welcome the unexpected.

Over 3 weeks on from the earthquake.

One big earthquake and over a 1000 aftershocks - many of decent earthquake size. Lots of adrenaline going round the body. Many different emotions arising for people. Some who are needing to use portaloos and have damaged houses feeling anger at those people they see as responsible for organising some action. Others are fearful. Others are anxious.
What can be learned from the earthquake?
1. What value do we put on things? Do things make you happy? If so, does the happiness last? Is it real or temporary? How attached are you to things and does this limit you, in your view of life? Brandon Bays says be careful of what you wish for. I had been thinking that we need a good sort out of the many things that we own. I hadn't got round to it - where to start! So an earthquake started the job for me.
2. We are not in control. Most of us assume that the ground will be stable beneath our feet. This is the ultimate in learning that we can't control our life. So if we can't be in control, how does that make us feel? How can we live when not in control of something. Will it make you work harder at controlling parts of your life or will you relax into the freedom of not controlling. Take yourself lightly and fly like an angel.
3. An earthquake is something which creates a major shake-up of the meaning of life and the importance of living in the NOW. The present is all we really have. Make the most of it. Not by making an effort, but by being open to the moment and living it fully.
4. An event such as an earthquake creates a situation where one's secret fears can be faced, met, felt and then let go. When might another earthquake happen? We don't know and can't know. So we need to learn to live with this uncertainty. How difficult is this?
Be thankful for the opportunity of the lessons which can be involved in the earthquake experience.