Permission to be free.

Whose permission do you need to live life fully with confidence? Do you feel stuck in grief because you feel that you will let the person down if you stop grieving? Maybe you need to ask their permission to let it go so you can enjoy the richness of life. Do you need your parent’s permission to let go of the beliefs that they instilled in you, so you can live life freely and make your own decisions about what you believe? Do you need your parent’s permission to be your real self and not worry for their approval all the time? Who else do you look to for approval? Ask their permission to make your own decisions from your own truth. Take time to sit and relax into yourself, picture the person in front of you and verbally ask their permission for anything that comes to mind. Be free.

Our minds.

Our minds are intriguing. On the one hand, the mind helps us plan, lets us learn, assists us to communicate, allows us to imagine. On the other hand it comes up with all sorts of doubts and negative stories. The past and the present can be thought about negatively. It gets distracted by worrying about other people’s approval. It doubts our own ability to do things. It questions what we plan to do. It tries to sort out the logical and best thing to do, and gets tied in knots doing it. Then some of us start to feel anxious, and our self-esteem goes down. Sometimes it is useful to realize that our mind is not who you really are. We need to trust our inner knowing about ourselves.

Emotional Pain

   Emotional pain! We don’t like it and we try to avoid it. We stuff those emotions away, we keep busy so we can’t feel them, we ignore them, we belittle them. Anything to avoid the pain and unpleasantness. We really want to be happy and positive, and we think that we can do this with will-power. We think we can do it by forcing ourselves to think positively. Does it work? Maybe, but only for a short time. And then it’s hard work. Those emotions are communicating strongly to you. Do you listen? What if you did? What is it that you fear? Would you fall apart? Try feeling. Give yourself some space to really feel. It might be subtle, it might be strong. Let it out and let it go.

Physical pain.

 Physical pain! We don’t like it and most of us like to avoid it. Little pain or big pain, it is telling us something. It’s giving us information about a part of our body and what is going on there. It alerts us that something is not working well. It reminds us to give respect and care to our body. With the information we can then make decisions about how best to look after our physical body. Breath into the pain, send that area of your body love, relax so it can do it’s best to heal. Show respect by listening and feeling the exact nature of the pain, visualize what is going on, and know there is message here about taking care of yourself. Show understanding of your body, and the pain it is experiencing and be gentle with yourself.

Peace.

Peace in the world. Imagine no wars, no conflict – just harmony and

people communicating to work things out together. The people

instigating wars and conflict are human beings. They have their

personal emotional issues which influence and guide their decisions.

If more of us ordinary people were at peace with ourselves, peace

would spread. You can do your bit by learning to be at peace with

yourself. Stop being the loser, or the winner, or the blamer. Face

your personal issues and release the attached feelings. Then you can

relax and be at peace with yourself and know your own truth.

  We can blame others for what we perceive that they have done to us, but does this really help? Whatever has happened is now in the past and can’t be changed. Accept this. If we continue to blame we become stuck in negativity and this increases over time until the emotion is an absolute block to living life fully. Release the emotion and be liberated by forgiving. There is no need to forgive or condone the action. Forgive the essence of the person, the best part of them, and understand that they were acting out their own conditioning and emotional issues.

 When I was little my parents said to me “Think before you speak”. As I grew up I thought that I would sooner be more spontaneous when speaking. On becoming older I realize the importance of speaking consciously. Our words have an impact on others. Even the words we use to speak of the earthquake can increase or neutralize fear. When we say the earthquake “struck”, isn’t there a subtle suggestion that something [the earth] is doing something deliberate to us. And is something to be feared. Why not say that the earthquake happened, which is neutral. Speak consciously – there is so much influence in our words.