Well done, you.

 Look after your own well-being by giving yourself some positive feedback. Think back over the day. What did you say that you really liked? What did you say that really mattered? It may have been open and honest, it may have been kind, or it may have been thoughtful. You may have made a comment that really connected with someone else, or that gave them some positive feedback, or that caused them to feel good. What did you do that was positive and really mattered? You may have shown consideration on the road. You may have offered someone some help, you may have smiled at someone, or shown appreciation. Well done, you.

Isn’t it interesting how emotions pop up unexpectedly. Someone pushes our “buttons” and suddenly the feeling is here. Where do the emotions come from? Emotions from the past are stored in our body. And a word, a tone of voice, a smell, a sight, a sound, a thought can trigger them.  We are so used to thinking that emotions, mind and body are separate. Whereas they aren’t. We make such a story about how we feel and blame the circumstances or someone else. How about just feeling and letting go – there does not have to be a reason or a story. You will feel so much freer

What is most important?

What is the most important thing to you in life? What do you value the most? Is it your family? Is it your status? Is it your possessions? Is it your safety and comfort? Is it your inner self? Is it truth? When you get to the end of your life, what will you look back on with the most pride? Will it be accomplishments? Or occasions of compassion and love? Will you have regrets? If so, what would they be? Maybe you could act on these now.  When you leave there is nothing to take other than your inner self, so treasure this and follow your own truth in every moment. Live consciously consulting your own deeper awareness of life and what it means for you.

Who are you really?

If you could be the person you really want to be, how would you live life? Would you be confident, happy and loving? Would you be kind and compassionate all the time? Would you be honest and loving towards yourself? Would you follow your dreams for your life? The question is – how to take that step into your real self. You may get a glimpse at times, and then the old monster thoughts kick in and tell you that you can’t do that. Maybe they tell you that you are not good enough or don’t deserve that. You might worry about what others will think of you. Oh, to be free of all the monster thoughts and able to live life fully. 

Permission to be free.

Whose permission do you need to live life fully with confidence? Do you feel stuck in grief because you feel that you will let the person down if you stop grieving? Maybe you need to ask their permission to let it go so you can enjoy the richness of life. Do you need your parent’s permission to let go of the beliefs that they instilled in you, so you can live life freely and make your own decisions about what you believe? Do you need your parent’s permission to be your real self and not worry for their approval all the time? Who else do you look to for approval? Ask their permission to make your own decisions from your own truth. Take time to sit and relax into yourself, picture the person in front of you and verbally ask their permission for anything that comes to mind. Be free.

Our minds.

Our minds are intriguing. On the one hand, the mind helps us plan, lets us learn, assists us to communicate, allows us to imagine. On the other hand it comes up with all sorts of doubts and negative stories. The past and the present can be thought about negatively. It gets distracted by worrying about other people’s approval. It doubts our own ability to do things. It questions what we plan to do. It tries to sort out the logical and best thing to do, and gets tied in knots doing it. Then some of us start to feel anxious, and our self-esteem goes down. Sometimes it is useful to realize that our mind is not who you really are. We need to trust our inner knowing about ourselves.

Emotional Pain

   Emotional pain! We don’t like it and we try to avoid it. We stuff those emotions away, we keep busy so we can’t feel them, we ignore them, we belittle them. Anything to avoid the pain and unpleasantness. We really want to be happy and positive, and we think that we can do this with will-power. We think we can do it by forcing ourselves to think positively. Does it work? Maybe, but only for a short time. And then it’s hard work. Those emotions are communicating strongly to you. Do you listen? What if you did? What is it that you fear? Would you fall apart? Try feeling. Give yourself some space to really feel. It might be subtle, it might be strong. Let it out and let it go.