Tuesday, June 5, 2012
Memories. Think of a time or happening that has affected you negatively. Remember it. Do you remember it accurately? Do you think that the other people in the memory remember it the same way? How can it be that people remember the same thing differently? We all perceive situations differently, depending on the emotional impact on us. It’s the emotional side of situations that we remember. It is not an objective memory. In fact, we interpret the situation and what people said and what they did – it’s not actually the complete picture of what happened. And then the altering of the memory carries on when we think about it frequently, or when we talk about it often. We change little bits and slant it in ways to support our case, or to make it easier to face it. Understand yourself and the processes involved. Show compassion to yourself and let yourself feel the emotions. Then you can leave the memory in the past.