Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Fear of being well.

Do you have some hidden little (or big) fears about  being well? What do you gain by being unwell? It may have been a long time since ill-health started and you do not remember what it feels like to be well. Are there some advantages in being unwell? Do you gain any of these: attention, being looked after, safety, not having to organize your life, having people around you most of the time, not having to make decisions? What would you have to face if you were really well? Would it be scary to think about looking after yourself? Would it be scary to have to make decisions without the limitations of being unwell? Would the freedom feel so unknown that it’s scary? Who would you be if you weren’t the label of your sickness? Honour yourself and be honest – face the emotions and shine in the truth that is revealed to you.  


  1. In the Continuum Concept the author suggests that being unwell and needing care and attention from others is due to missing out on the 'In Arms Phase' of childhood where a baby's every need is met instantly by the mother and other carers. When we don't get our full quota of being mothered like that, as adults we still need to find the experience somehow. Makes a lot of sense.

    1. In the weekend I uncovered a vow made when I was a baby. My 7 year old brother was sick with polio, and I was in my pram crying lots. The vow was that I would not speak up again as noone would listen.